Depression.

The worst thing that anyone can say to someone suffering with depression is "Pull yourself together".

Concentrate on something else instead of self harming a the only person you will hurt is yourself and you are suffering enough.

You have nailed it in the head by stating that your husband doesn't understand as unless you have walked in the path of depression , you really don't know how it feels.

Sending you big hugs wrapped with love. x

Hi, i just wanted to say thanks for the feedback from people I get on here. I don't feel ready for talking therapy right now, the thought alone terrifies me. this morning was a good time, I had ener and was on top of the world but as the day went on the usual over thinking and anxiety kicked in. Now I just want to get the kids fed then hold out for bed time and hopefully wake up feeling good tomorrow. Take care all. 

hi bex, i used to be exactly the same as you and couldnt bring myself to talk that was until i started talking. I found that my head is a better liar than my ex wife, filling my thoughts with negatives and catastrophic images of what can go wrong etc but step back and look at yourself. My depression would drag me down and tell me how useless i was or un-worthy of any help so then the anxiety would kick in but i actually have a lot of reasons not to think like that. 

I have achieved some real milestones in my life, they might not seem important to others but to me they show that what my head tells me is wrong.

You are on this site which means you are searching for help and thats a positive and you do have good days so they arent all bad! little things can do so much.

You are in control and only you can decide what you want to do, depression is a very personal illness.

Try letting go and venting your fears, thoughts or anything else, you wont be judged, even message me if you like, i enjoy a good moan every now and then, they usually end up in good conversations and god knows i could do with cheering up sometimes.

phil

Hi Bexstar, You are already talking , just by joining this group and using it. My new partner is now having his illness [CML + depression] issues addressed with a local cancer charity. He himself, isn't a real talker as "Men are strong and can cope" in his upbringing. The greatest positive thing that he has said to me only days ago was "I don't know why I need a therapist because I have you". 

The more you open up , the better you will feel. It isn't easy if you are used to bottling things up but "practise makes perfect"

I was offered counselling but declined . I didn't feel the need to talk to a stranger. I knew what was causing my anxiety depression and what I had to do to overcome it; a very hard, dark lonely process despite being surrounded by care/support. 

Dperssion, anxiety and general low moods creep up from nowhere ,so don't waste too much time worrying about it or what has caused it when moments earlier you were feeling fine. As the saying goes; The soul is willing but the flesh is weak.

Little by little, day by day.

Keep posting . Always here for you.

Phil. Hope that you are having a good day. x

As a father and husband I found it difficult to deal and admit to depression.  Once I opened up about it and spoke to a number of  people of whom I could trust I found it easier to deal with.  Through my place of work I was offered counselling and after a number of sessions found it easier to deal with. I could not believe how things changed for the better for me but just having someone listen for a time could make such  a difference to me. I would urge anyone who needs to talk to someone to do just that I was amazed how much of an effect it has had on me.

Great to read alunsue. Talking really is the best tool available plus it is free.

Acknowledging, accepting and embracing help/advice 100 % can only have positive benefits.

I wish you well in all that you do.

Big hugs 

Julie 

Thank you

i had counselling to help with my depression/anxiety and it really helped and was great to open up to someone and just let what problems i had going around in my head just let them out to the person and they were very sympathetic and understanding and was a huge relief

but due to stop going they start to build up again and i recently come in and out of medication and has really been affecting my relationships and this includes with family and also my partner but just gotta keep thinking positively 

got a job lined up now and focus on sorting out medication and need to go and discuss with the doctors about medication whether to up the dosage or keep the same 

due to doing driving has kept me focused off negativity to help my relationships with family and my partner and fingers crossed pass my theory by the end of september and be driving mid november

stay positive

I have had to do something really hard tonight I am just hoping its the right decision. I cannot tell right now if it was the right decision or not yet for a couple of weeks but by then I will be hoping to have had the right outcome and be able to tell you that I was able to control me emotions enough to make it and carry on after.

Keep strong and don't be afraid. I will let you know how I get on as soon as I know the outcome.

I wish you well in your decision. Big hugs wrapped with love. x