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Edited on 29/05/2016 at 22:08

Hi all. I'm new here so be gentle...

I have carefully sculpted a very effective mask over the years. It has hidden so so much from the world and loved ones. I feel it slipping. How do you keep your mask in place??

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JaiJai

09/04/2016 at 14:50

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Sorry. Not long after my post above I had a breakdown and an incident that hospitalised me for a while. To reply to your comment - at the time of writing I had NOTHING to be proud of. I'm still in a bad way and the only thing I'm slightly proud of is that I'm still alive. Although that is paradoxical because the intention was to be the complete opposite. :'(

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Edited on 10/04/2016 at 00:24

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I had NOTHING to be proud of? So do something that you are proud of rather than follow?

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10/04/2016 at 09:16

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Hii wear my mask all the time,even my husband has no idea how im feeling,im struggling at the moment,hanging on for next week when I finally have an assessment ,I saw my doc 2 wks ago!

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JaiJai

10/04/2016 at 17:08

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@LeeBee You haven't got a clue how depression affects me. To get out of bed is a struggle. Don't assume thast that you know me well enough to think that I can just get up and do something awesome. :'( A few weeks ago my friends cut me down after trying to hang myself. THATS how I feel right now. I'm getting help but I have to take every day one at a time and hour by hour.

What is right for you is not right for me.

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LeeBee

10/04/2016 at 23:13

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Jai I have lived the Above over 25 years, so please do not think I know best I am just saying what I would do. Then there is choices and we will do as we do. But still here matey.

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11/04/2016 at 12:49

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I am new to this site and still trying to find my way around it. I suffer from depression; no 2 people are the same + that is what makes us individuals. After going through 3 years of total hell I have come out of the other side. Yes I still have down days but who doesn't? It is all about getting help + talking but most a "little by little + day by day" approach. My new partner is in hospital due to a breakdown; he thought that he was coping all by himself and he didn't want to ruin our new relationship. I find it so sad that he was ashamed to admit feeling worthless, a failure as a father/husband /man etc. He was also diagnosed with a terminal illness ; no one chooses to suffer mentally. He was actually told by another patient that " he looked fine ,so why was he in hospital"?My heart goes out to you JaiJai and I do hope that you are soon feeling a little lighter and able to accept the positives in your life; although I know how hard it is to think like that when you are feeling rock bottom. I have never walked in your shoes but "Little by little , day by day". Don't try to look too far ahead, small steps will get you in a good place. I wish you well.

How to maintain the mask... https://www.carenity.co.uk/forum/depression/living-with-behavioural-disorders-mental-illne/how-to-maintain-the-mask-466 2016-04-11 12:49:51

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11/04/2016 at 15:05

IM known in my job to be the one that's always laughing and smiling! They don't realise what's going on inside and I'm glad they don't.

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12/04/2016 at 11:35

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To the above unregistered user; You life would be so much brighter if you admit that all isn't well in your world. Like you, I was known as the happy, smiley person but when I admitted what daily struggles I had been facing people were shocked. They had no idea. No one is happy unconditionally. You don't want sympathy etc but honesty really is the best policy for your own happiness/future. Your life would become easier for you. It is a shame that this illness that affects so many is still a taboo subject. It doesn't make us bad people, everyone struggles at sometime; some handle it better than others. A penfriend of over 30 years would email me every day until I had rediscovered myself and my life after going down a very dark, lonely path. She never judged me and so I was able to tell her how I was really feeling. We still haven't met to this day.

If it helps then feel free to message me. Talking really can help. I wish you well.

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LeeBee

22/04/2016 at 01:32

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Be yourself please, just do what we think we should do and not others... You find happiness there..:) Peace all

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07/05/2016 at 21:24

Honestly sometimes its very hard work, keeping a mask on, I have done a very good job of hiding all my feelings i still do, people say am i ok, i say yeah. They leave it as that, its a lie. But the thing is sometimes it does slip and very good people can sometimes know when your ok and not ok.

An example i was at uni back in 2010 not really kept in touch with many people, one friend out the blue messaged me saying i am worried about you, your not ok. I was like how the hell did he know i was not ok!

Some people are good at knowing. Its ok sometimes to be not ok, sometimes you need to let the mask come down, its so tiring depression anyways even more so if you keep hiding how you really feeel.

Some one you trust its ok to be honest and say how you honestly feel :)

I hope that was of some help :D

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