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Edited on 29/05/2016 at 22:08

Hi all. I'm new here so be gentle...

I have carefully sculpted a very effective mask over the years. It has hidden so so much from the world and loved ones. I feel it slipping. How do you keep your mask in place??

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LeeBee

08/05/2016 at 00:32

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I have learnt to adjust to life so I keep away from issues and opinions from others that will never understand my issues and yes their opinions matter to some..
Never be false....

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JaiJai, Some people have been through that much they see depression as a lifestyle choice as to some it's child's play in the real world..Think of those kids that get bombed everyday so what do we really have to complain about? Opinions and ego?
Trust me we have nothing to complain about apart from our opinions..

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10/05/2016 at 18:49

i too wear many masks the i am a mummy mask, i am happy mask even though i feel my whole world inside crumble, the oh she's fun and funny mask... but when they start to crumble i feel all exposed but keep going no matter what

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10/05/2016 at 19:06

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Life is hard enough as it is. There must be a time in ones life to say "enough is enough"

Drop the mask and say how you are feeling because at the of end of the day , who are we kidding?? Ourselves.

When I decided that I needed help ; my friends/work colleagues were so surprised as I was the "happy, chatty people person".

I am now of the opinion that if more people spoke out about their mental health issues then perhaps the stigma attached will disappear.

Own your feelings /emotions, don't be ashamed or embarrassed.

Love yourself for the wonderful person that you are .

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10/05/2016 at 19:18

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Interesting reading about the `wearing a mask`.I`ve often wished I could hide behind an actual mask in certain social situations instead of hiding at home!

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10/05/2016 at 19:22

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Hi JaneMay.

Why are you hiding at home?

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11/05/2016 at 22:27

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Why? One of the symptoms of depression I guess.When I suffer from it,I just want to hide at home.Lack of confidence I guess.

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11/05/2016 at 23:18

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I can understand that feeling as at times I would yearn to hide in my bed and shut the world out. At times I would be walking home as fast as I could because i wanted to cry. I just felt so low and the dark cloud would just descend upon me out of nowhere.

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12/05/2016 at 13:28

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My bad days are horrific. I still have days where I cut my arms and legs. Sometimes my chest. :'( I have days were I am just completely and utterly overhwelmed with sadness and I'll literally shake and shiver. I actually have a job now and it is very difficult - the mask has to be worn there so I can function.

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12/05/2016 at 19:27

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Hello u guys hoping the sun is helping u all feel a bit better. I havnt been on for a while but want to let you know some good news. I suffered a breakdown last year in March.. after being told for 18 years I've had bipolar. I now have a proper assessment hurray I have personality disorder due to complex trauma ptsd. It's curable even bigger hurray.

Unfortunately in November my mother was diagnosed with stage 4 late stages pancreatic cancer.. fortunately I'm on the right mood stabiliser. After 20 years of the wrong tablets thanks to a crap gp .

Since the day I found out about my dear mum who got me back to reality I decided to not worry again after 40 years that's progress. I am studying the human brain and have learnt how to control my total panic.

I havnt had any choice I have to help my mum. Fortunately I cannot work because of my symptoms and fear of people but nonetheless. I make myself get up I go to my mother's and massage her help with her palliative care I still get very nervous but I have to do this. We use aromatherapy I've been using it since I was 18 but whilst I'll lost my talent I've found it again at the most desperate of times. We all have something special about us and that's our soul.

It's been very hard for me to get my life back but I'm doing it I have a new home away from anti social behaviour. I have changed my life my friends and my home. I also have two children and am happily single.

I just want you all to know last year I nearly died and it was a living he'll. I'm doing trauma therapy and I try every day to be gratefull. My dear mum had a cat scan and her tumours she has lots of them are a bit smaller we are past the 6 months mark and she is doing well. Her illness has helped us both so much and my massage and love helps her to deal with the reality of what all of us face on a daily base. Cancer is no different to mental illness.

Find something u once loved drawing massage writing and do a little bit every day even if it's 1 line it will help.

Look into your pituitary gland find out how to calm your brain down. And work at it make your brain your project. The human brain and body can heal them self you just have to be willing to let it happen. Ask the universe to help you use aromatherapy and crystals go into nature wear sunglasses they really help

Stay in the light you guys your all in my angel messages best wishes me xxxx

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