Depression

I'm sorry you've had such a rough time. But not taking meds for depression is like not wearing a cast for a broken leg - ok, it's bulky, but it performs the function of helping you get around better and heal.  The right anti-depressant performs the function of helping you (1) concentrate better (2) avoid big mood swings (3) kill yourself or self-harm (4) feel getting up to face another day is just beyond your power.  Some have side effects: usually these wear off after a few weeks. Some make you gain weight: if it's a choice between that and despair, I'd choose the weight.  It's hard, yes - I've put on 5 stone in 8 years and I do feel ugly whereas I used to feel attractive - but I'm still here for my husband, my son and our animals and without the med's I wouldn't be.

I appreciate your comment, but some people need the meds more then others and I like to be in control, I have managed to reach nearly 55, so not doing to bad.  Maybe I should of tried meds years ago when I most probably needed them?!  I'm glad that meds have been beneficial to you and helped you along the way to a better life, weight can be a problem and overcome at the same time.  Good luck in everything that you do and keep fighting, you're winning and doing well...

Hi am new to the site, have suffered from depression, since my first child, However I have to be the rock for everyone and do you know, I just can't do it anymore

Apart from my GP no one knows about my depression! 

I also suffer from chronic pain.I just hoped that someone would have been able to talk tonight

Hi

I'm new to the group, I suffer from Depression and have for many years.

No one would ever know about my condition, because in my work and social life, I am a very bubbly, confident person.

Only my close family and friends know the way I suffer.  I have attempted to take my own life twice because I just couldn't cope.  I have been extremely low the past few months, I've had a lot of things going on in my personal life.

I've had to go on stronger tablets so I can at least try and cope.   I've got to a stage in my life where I think I've worn my family down, and I'm scared that if I need them they won't be there 

And I agree with Thetigers. I prefer not to take medications cause of the negative factor. But we all are different and we all have different needs. I wish I could just have a chat with someone cause my life is like big mess. I suffer with depression many years now. It was always up and down. But last few years was really bad. But still thinking meds will not help.

Meds help some people suppress the depression, but it is a negative way of combatting stress and depression.  A better way is to eat well, exercise and do positive things, as well as talk to positive people.  Have an hobby and watch things that make you happy, stay away from negative people if you can, be with people that make you feel good.  Anything that makes you feel better in yourself is a positive way of having a better life...

I wish I could do that, stay away from negative people, problem is that I can't as I'm bullied at work as well. So I also having panic attacks as well. I'm eating healthy. I don't eat junk food. I even can't cause of my other health problems. Like I says my life seems be very messy now, I will try make new topic soon. 

Jules 52- Welcome to the site. It is difficult being the rock all the time I have to be for our two sons and like you I have reached a low.

I just keep going on as I have to but the one thing I do is make sure I have time for something I want to do each day. Maybe this could be the beginning for you and then take it further adventurous.