Depression

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Hi, I'm new to the site.  I've suffered from depression for the last 5 years and never been in a proper relationship during, until last September.  I've know this man for almost 9 years, and he is now my fiancée.  He knows about my condition, and can be supportive, although there are times when it affects our relationship, like now.  We are currently taking a break from each other for a few weeks.  I have an appointment with my doctor on Thursday, hoping to actually find a proper counsellor to talk to face to face.  I've never been as happy as when I'm with him, but things that have gone on with me in the past come back to haunt me and resurface when I've had a drink.  I'm not an alcoholic, but know that it's a dangerous game to play, especially when on meds.  When I'm sober, things are good with us, although I can't help but think there is underlying tension, and he's not being completely honest about how he feels.   

I found medication awful for me tried about 12 different sorts now no one seems to understand but if not been through it how could they? mine started about 12 years ago just learn to cope with it have some really dark times so much happened and simple things trigger it off how i wish i could turn back time hate this illness!

I thought that I could cope without medication for my depression,  and I could cope without any help. Even my family didn't know about how I was feeling, but I eventually got some courage to go see my gp and he started me on sertraline, I felt like I failed myself by not being able to help myself. But since I've been on the tablets I've before alot more confident in myself, I've been able to find work and I enjoy myself more than I used too. I still have moments of depression, anxiety and panic attacks but they're not as bad as they were, and with the medication it helps me cope with them

Kinda know how you feel Hayley64 and ct3215.  A few times I weaned myself off Fluoxetine, thinking I was ready to handle it on my own.  I managed, for a while, but when my demons come back, it's harder to fight them off.  I'm back on meds again, and they have helped calm me, but I'm still going through a whole range of emotions through a tough time in my relationship.  Kinda feel like he's abandoned me when I need him most, but I have to keep telling myself that it's difficult for him too.  Has anyone tried counselling?  I have my first session on Friday.  I've never been to one before, and feeling really anxious!

hi depends if you get the right councellor i did the first time but not the 2nd time so pulled out frlt she did not understand me i dont need patronising i have tried both meds you have both mentioned and sent me loopy never again but glad have worked for you

Counselling is good, it's a release, I've had that much I started repeating myself and I knew that was enough.  It felt like emptying the dustbin full of rubbish, so I suggest Counselling if you need it and they are there to listen and give advice only.  Counsellors are not Doctors, they are an Ear to bend and as I said give advice!

Thanks for that guys, feeling less anxious now.  Sounds exactly what I need!  I've found there's only so much you can tell your loved ones.  There are a couple things even my fiancée doesn't know about, and never will, perhaps talking about these with my councellor will help me on the road to recovery! 

Good luck poolqueen26 and everyone else...

thetiger
            I appreciate your comment, but some people need the meds, This I totally agree with and never took them for over 20 years and now I have with advancement in medicine it has stopped my mood swings and to everyone else with depression and don't feel the need for meds. Maybe look at your aims the people and life you choose to help as it is cheeper to the tax payer and our kids sometimes not to just follow and get depressed? Chin up people it could be worse you could have fought and watched friends die to allow things and people to hurt people and give us issues. So they have Profit they can have tax free...Get it we are all apart of the puzzle and our actions.. Stay strong guys and girls and smile it could be worse, sorry my stupid humor hehe