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04/01/2017 at 20:27

Im new to this group but im trying everything i can at the moment t beat this depression and suicidal thoughts. I havnt felt this low in my hole life i jis feel like im on the outside watching everyone live there lives. I feel sad and lonely all the time. Im a single mother to a 3 year old boy and

hes the only reason i get up every morning, everything seems so much harder at the moment the pain is unbearable

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06/02/2017 at 16:39

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Hi Nicole + Welcome. You may be struggling but you are strong in your approach /attitude. Yes, you can beat depression/suicidal thoughts and I speak from my own personal experience. It must be so hard as you are looking after your little boy. He will be your rock as like you state' he will be the reason to get up.

My dog was my rock as she needed feeding/walking. My sons were older and so didn't need my constant attention. Do you have any family or close friends who can help you?

Are you receiving professional help or are on medication?

My life was just one,dark, lonely frightening bubble, with no glimmer of light.

In time ,as there are no short cuts with depression that darkness got lighter and yours will also.

If you have any spare time when your little one goes to bed, do something nice for you. Don't sit and over think things; be gentle on yourself.

Do you recognize what has led you to be depressed?

Once you acknowledge, accept and embrace 100% all the tools/help available then that will be when your recovery can truly begin.

Go for walks, taking time out to notice/point out the flowers instead of the weeds. Truly notice your surroundings.

Establish a routine; eat and sleep well.

Try not to look too far ahead; little by little ,day by day

Set yourself small targets.

Adopt the 2 steps forward, 3 steps back attitude.

Concentrate on your breathing. Focus on it and nothing else.

If you are having suicidal thoughts then I urge you to visit your GP.

Your life will be wonderful, it just takes time, patience and a lot of self belief and self loving.

Always here to listen/chat /support.

Gentle hugs, wrapped with love.

Julie x

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17/12/2019 at 16:46

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I'm feeling similarly run down. Especially when you're dealing with an illness that most people have never heard of. I just want to stay in bed all day and not see anyone. How do I snap out of this?

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09/01/2020 at 17:28

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Hello I'm new here,

I just want to talk to people who are dealing with depression and how they get from day to day. I'm clinically depressed and sometimes cut myself as well. I'm too afraid to die, but I hate living. Anyone relate? It's horrible.

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10/02/2020 at 15:39

@sad_faery I can definitely related. Cutting and ligature were a part of my life for a long time and the temptation to do it is still there. Does anyone feel like it's too much to go on?

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11/02/2020 at 12:29

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Hello @sad_faery and @imnotok

Welcome to the forum and I'm sorry to hear you're doing so poorly. Members living with Depression, do you have any advice for people suffering from feelings of sadness or self-harm?

Thank you,

Michael

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11/02/2020 at 14:16

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@Nicole1613 ..so very sorry Nicole I feel your pain I truly do....sadly I feel 'exactly' the same....different circumstances same destitute feeling..its feeling like you want to die....but really wishing you felt like living....sending a big squashie hug to you and one to your precious wee boy..

I would say maybe you and your wee boy could cuddle up under the duvet on the settee and watch some cartoons...he will laugh and that may in turn effect you....xx

Blessings Marg {Ireland}

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11/02/2020 at 14:17

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@imnotok ...Always...it's just a battle of survival....x

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11/02/2020 at 14:28

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I'm fed up of trying to get help. I've been like this for nearly 20 yrs the past few have been unbearable.I can't even be bothered to talk about it no more. Only writing this as i'd like people to know what I'm going through. My girlfriend is pregnant she doesn't understand. when i moved my doctor refused to refer me to mental health team over a year ago.

So i lock myself away now waiting till the fatal day. and every morning i wake and think oh god im still here.

Often get told to sort myself out (haha) which i hate.

I'm angry all the time i don't wanna speak to anyone most days I have no goals no dreams.

I used to write songs make music write poems but all that has left me now as i can only write about how down and depressed i am.

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11/02/2020 at 18:16

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Hello @MaggiD‍ and @gwizardstar‍ Thanks for adding your perspectives to the discussion. Are there any small things that take away the pain? Even for a few moments?

Take care,

Michael

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