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Depression: When did you realize you needed help?

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Somya.P

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16/10/2024 at 20:00

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Hello everyone,

How are you feeling today?

Living with depression can sometimes make it hard to recognize when you need support. For many of us, the decision to seek help comes after a long period of struggling alone. Whether it was feelings of hopelessness, physical manifestations, or simply reaching a breaking point, there is a moment when we realize it's time to ask for help.

When did you first realize you needed help for your depression? What were the signs or feelings that made you reach out to a professional or loved one?

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Sharing your experience could really help others who may be struggling with similar feelings but are unsure if they should seek help.

Looking forward to hearing your stories,

Somya from the Carenity team 🌼

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sher1ock3d

17/10/2024 at 06:37

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2 relatives passed in a fortnight, thought was just grief. Just realised it isn't. Ive not showered since sat, started hurting myself, spacing out, losing time, disaplinary for being off later today. Thinking of skipping it to see if can get signed off

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17/10/2024 at 18:42

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26 years ago. My 16 year old daughter was se

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17/10/2024 at 18:46

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My 16 year old daughter was self harming. I nd myself and thought that I was a bad mother

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20/10/2024 at 16:56

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I didn't know I needed help until I realised that I was retreating into my bedroom and feeling fed up of being bullied by family members and friends.

I felt like giving up on life. I lost a few precious family members and had no support on how to deal with it. When I was diagnosed with depression it was like a light at the end of the tunnel. I suffer each and every day. If I didn't have my partner I would have constantly self harmed.

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23/10/2024 at 23:45

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My depression came on after years of abuse.I was abused as a child as well as a teenager.IVE never gone for help which is silly of me.My comfort is skin picking .. it calms me.Im trying to stop but it’s hard … MY anxiety is taking over .. I don’t sleep of a night as my mind is more active .IS anyone else feeling the same Sue x

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24/10/2024 at 01:16

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I realised I needed help when my mum noticed that I wasn't my usual bubbly chatty self.

I made an appointment at my doctor's surgery and I saw a lovely lady doctor who listened to me and she said that she that I had postnatal depression and anxiety.

She also said that she was putting me on a low dose of antidepressants to see how I went, but I was on and off antidepressants for over 10 years, but I am now on the right dose and antidepressants for me. I have been on them since October 2018.

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05/11/2024 at 21:45

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I first discovered I required help about thirty years ago. Back then I wasn't sure what was going on. After time my mental health 'improved'. Then over twenty years ago it returned with a vengeance as I my working life was dragging me down. I called out to my wife with a one word message - HELP! I sought professional help which I received. However, that episode has remained with me ever since, though you could say...peaks and troughs! I'm currently in a very bad place and considering a trip to my GP or maybe a counsellor. I have coping mechanisms when I can use them.

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12/11/2024 at 19:19

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I first sought help for depression about 20-30 years ago, though I suspected depression much earlier, probably since my late teens or early 20s. I just turned 70 three weeks ago. It took some time to find the right anti depressants, which I was advised to taper off around 18 months ago but symptoms have since returned, from relatively ok to very low mood with dark thoughts. Every day is like a rollercoaster.

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I take each day as it comes, try to have a focus for that day. Today is pretty good, but it gives me a nudge every now and again. H

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