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Debra#

15/11/2020 at 13:34

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I'm quite low today, it would have been my father's birthday yesterday, he would have been 98 he died in 1993, my mother died in 1998, and I always feel it a lot more around this time of year. I live on my own, my family have their own families, so there's just me.

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16/11/2020 at 11:43

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@Debra# Hello Debra#, thank you for opening this discussion and sharing what you're going through. I'm sorry for your loss, some say that grief and the heart heal with time, but I agree with you that some times of the year can make our feelings of loss more apparent. And these times that we are living through certainly do not make things easier. Please know that our community is here to support you!

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Hello all, how are you doing? Does this time of year ever make you feel more low or sad, or nostalgic for past times? Does it worsen your grief? How do you cope with it?
@Bevking‍ @Mandyparker1968‍ @GraceEnterkin‍ @Sue171‍ @Rozanne‍ @janelsa1313‍ @Kazzy59‍ @Dundeeman1‍ @mattmar12‍ @Tyann1‍ @SarahWidge‍ @wabews‍ @Annie567.‍ @jack54‍ @Daz123‍ @Alison74‍ @Caro18‍ @Faithkitty‍

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Coping with grief https://www.carenity.co.uk/forum/depression/living-with-depression/depression-3851 2020-11-16 11:43:23

SarahWidge

16/11/2020 at 12:51

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Distraction is good. You could try getting some bereavement counselling. Best wishes

Coping with grief https://www.carenity.co.uk/forum/depression/living-with-depression/depression-3851 2020-11-16 12:51:58

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16/11/2020 at 13:18

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Yes, it is a very hard time for me. I am alone this year so I will be working, I also find talking to a counsellor is very helpful. These don't take the pain away but do help to either distract or ease it. It is so important to have some kind of support system that you can turn to, be it counsellors, family or friends. When I was in a very dark place last year December I called the Samaritans. With one call I felt stronger and able to carry on.

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Coping with grief https://www.carenity.co.uk/forum/depression/living-with-depression/depression-3851 2020-11-16 13:18:08

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19/11/2020 at 10:28

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@Debra# I've been struggling with this myself as well. Everything seems dark. I've found a bit of comfort in a counsellor like others have said and then coming on here to talk to others from time to time has helped.

Coping with grief https://www.carenity.co.uk/forum/depression/living-with-depression/depression-3851 2020-11-19 10:28:40

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jenlei14

16/07/2019 at 12:02

I take each day as it comes, try to have a focus for that day. Today is pretty good, but it gives me a nudge every now and again. H

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mr chipps

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23/08/2023 at 15:47

Lizzie when we loss loved ones some people are expecting to grieve in the same way with each bereavement, and are even more upset because they dont. this can be for many reasons, for example it could be the age of the loved one, how close you were to a certain person, how well they physically or emotionally knew a loved one. or lastly some of us may never have met a loved one for many reasons. or if physical events had taken place ,and a loved one could not be viewed by family and friends

this happened me was because, my son and i parted with bad blood between us, and when his baby daughter was born , and died age 50 minutes i was banned from attending her service or internment, her name was Rebecca Jade, but i called her Becky, and i bought her a small headstone and i go to her grave at least once a month with fresh flowers. i will always love my grandaughter, but possibly not as much as my Angel wife or son, who took his own life.?

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16/07/2019 at 12:02

I take each day as it comes, try to have a focus for that day. Today is pretty good, but it gives me a nudge every now and again. H

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