What attachment style do you have? Secure, Anxious, Avoidant or Fearful-Avoidant?

I think throughout life one suffers from all the stated anxieties but as one grows older, more experience, encouragement, support one can jump from one to another leaving some, or most of the old feelings behind tucked away but they can rear their ugly feelings at times, it's trying to find a suppressant method.

I personally feel secure this has taken many years to develop gaining life experiences, knowledge and confidence so if the demons return I can cope with them to stop any damage they would like to do. Everyone is different.

I think I have had all the four distinct forms of attachment ,depends on your level of depression and how you deal with it. Lots have changed since the 1960s more information more insight into the different types of depression. The change from medication to zombie level ,to more talk therapy more understanding

i have the 4 distinct forms of attachment styles, as recognised by therapists, counsellors and mental health experts.

I have an anxious attachment, an avoidant (dismissive) attachment and a fearful- avoidant/disordered attachment .

I am unstable and insecure but I do not have a constant need for reassurance, in fact I do not seek any reassurance.

I am uncomfortable with closeness and emotional intimacy. I am anxious and insecure and I feel scared of intimacy and emotional closeness.

Of course this has effected my life in a big way, but now at age 79 I am much less afraid of the feelings. However being alienated from the human race, being unable to form normal friendship and being unable to have emotional intimacy and closeness has been difficult, as the "experts" tell us that we are all social beings, who have an instinctive urge for closeness with other human beings, an inherent need for friendship and intimacy. I do not have any close friends and my wife and I are unable to have a meaningful relationship because of my crippling emotional inadequacy.

I have battled with this disorder for many years. I practiced as a Counsellor one to one and group support work. Over the years I developed a Life Coping Skill practice. In facing our pasts we can live in the present. I happened upon meditation in 1980. Transferring oneself through meditation helped very much my choice was an eagle, and in many times in life my eagle has taken me on his wings and allowed me to free myself of the present painful experience (lumber puncture, labour pains, dentist care etc). My living bereavement is something I knew I had to find a way to function every day to live in the moment. I would urge people who suffer as I did to reach out to whatever method suits them, most of all to learn to move breathe and be in the moment. Keep up the good work, this is my first time to express myself in this way. I can only say love yourself, everything which happens in life outside of the self can never be controlled only the I is the one that can change you from within.