Is this fair?

Hello, if you want to talk to someone who understands your difficulties then you can contact me, I've been through a lot of shit like you and understand how you must be feeling. Contact me and we can talk, don't do anything silly ok? You are not worthless so please remember that. Look forward to talking to you. Laurie

Good Morning . I do hope that today you are feeling a little brighter regarding your outlook to life? It was sad to read your post. Your life must appear to be so dark and unforgiving at this present moment in time.

Life can be so unfair .

Be yourself, don't look at other peoples lives and compare them with your own as you will never find happiness or peace. We all compare why some people "appear" to have it all when your life seems so unfair/crappy. Deep down ,they may be feeling the same ;unsatisfied.

You appear to have been through so much but don't give up; turn your life around. 

You say that you can't get a job ? Do some volunteering work. I work with young adults/adults who need support with every day life that most of us take for granted. It is not only rewarding but it puts your own problems in to prospective.

Who is it that is bullying you?

When starting new medication, the body reacts until they get in to your system. Return to your GP and be honest with her. Embrace what she is telling you. There really is no point in just going through the motions if you aren't 100% committed to wanting to change your life for the better.

You have to dig deep and find the strength from within to go out and find "it" as it won't come to you. Only you can make good things happen. Medication/counselling can only help to a certain extent but the really hard work has to come from you. No one else can do it.

You really need to re- learn to love yourself instead of self loathing. Learn not to be so critical of yourself. I am sure that you are liked ; however due to your low self esteem you don't see it. 

We all have something "to offer" ,we just need to discover what it is.

None of us can change the past but we can choose which path we take for a our future. Focus on the 'Here and now" not what has gone on previously.

Find a way to release your anger, vent it by going on a long walk, some physical activity; anything that will not only release your frustration but it will also be releasing the "happy hormones". Do things to make you feel good about yourself.

Learn to accept the help being offered and try not to push it away.

Take the time to really notice the flowers instead of the weeds.

For every negative thought , replace it with a positive one.

Don't let the bullies or your brother be the winners. Prove to others that you have so much to offer which you do.

Sending big hugs + positive thoughts that you will soon be shining both inside and out.

Little by little, day by day. 

Keep posting as it can only be beneficial in the long run.

xx

Hello  my friend, 

              please try and talk to your Dr again about your medication it sounds like sertraline just don't suit you and there are several alternatives if you really don't feel able to talk to her is there another Dr at the surgery that you could see. You could also try talking to your pharmacist about the headaches as they probably know more about the different medications. 

Is there a branch of Mind by you, maybe they can help. There is a helpline called mental health matters, it's free even from mobiles and deals specifically with mental health problems. They are all trained to help. I've put some of the phone numbers below some of the numbers but if you don't live in the areas I'm sure you can still ring them.

Please ring the NHS number 111 if you can't get any help and are desperate, they will help.

It may seem like you are alone but really you aren't, hopefully seeing the answers to your post will show you that people care and although everyones experiences are different most folk who have suffered with depression or any other mental health problem will recognise the feelings of desperation, confusion and wretchedness. 

Please also talk to a dentist about your teeth falling out, it could be something easy like a lack of calcium or vitamin D, or mention it to the Doctor or pharmacist.

When you feel stronger you could do as it gets better suggests and try volunteering, even if it's only an hr in a charity shop, they will be very grateful and it means you will meet new people.

You are not worthless, you've had a lot to deal with and feel like you are sinking deeper into the hole but you are still hanging on to the ladder- coming on here and typing your post shows that and slowly you will be able to climb a bit higher. I can't promise it'll be easy or that you won't feel like s*** again but you are a survivor and very special. 

A few weeks ago I was desperate and the people on here helped me to realise I am not alone. My problems aren't the same as yours but at the time I couldn't see a way out and yes there are still bad days but knowing that I could be myself and talk on here, let all my feelings out and not be judged. Be accepted as I was, as I am, has helped. 

In time you may feel able to use your experience to help others but for now allow people to support you and please talk to a dr, pharmacist or 111 and please tell them how bad you are feeling, how desperate you are feeling  and that you have had thoughts of harming yourself.

Sending big hugs xx

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Hi, I've been bullied most of my life. I am still going through it with my work right now, so I do understand where you are coming from, please contact me via email to have a chat if you need too. I'm desperatly trying to get out of my job, and find another. I was accused of something I did'nt do and the took the side of the person who lied about me, so going into work is a nightmere, I'm not sleeping, or eating very well, I'm always feeling ill, my health is not good, and i'm always in pain. Please don't give up you are still young enough, try and find something you like doing, and explore it. I love to sing and it really makes me feel better when i've been to singing lessons. Go and study in a college on something you would really love to do. one you get your foot on the ladder of what you love, then things should brighten up. Never mind other people, concentrate on yourself first, then others will come along when you and they are ready. Doing something you love with others you will find hopefully someone to connect too, and build up a friendship. You need to sort yourself out first, try other anti depressants till you find the one that suits you. Clear your head and go for a walk. You need to find something to make you feel positive about yourself. I know it is not easy when you feel the way you do, but please try something. I've been a manic depressive since childhood. and still suffer extreamly bad days even now. But I have no support in work. At home i'm not so bad as it's my safe place to be. Again please email me if you want to chat, and hope you find something and some peace soon in your life. Go ahead and live it.