Teenage Step Daughter

I know from personal experience that children no matter who they belong too know how to push buttons. The most important advice that I can give is for you and your husband to basically stay united and not to let any of them try to cause a divide of your parenting.

All children will try to play one parent off against the other.

You don't say how old the boys are but my guess is that like your step daughter ,they are pushing boundaries. It is up to you/husband to set boundaries and stick to them. In life we all have boundaries and the earlier that they are set the easier? it will be in the long run.

Your step daughter may be your step daughter but she is still part of one united family unit. She is at that hormonal stage. Yes, she may not be yours maternally but she is a part of your family due to marriage.

You haven't said how long you have been married. 

At the end of the day , yes you want to live in a harmonious house but having children is going to rock that calm, no matter who you are. 

All your children should be treated the same; being disrespectful shouldn't become the "norm" and this is were you/husband should both be singing off the same sheet. 

Try to stay calm ,whilst pointing out that you find their behaviour unacceptable.

 Make sure that you have time alone to do things for you. You will be amazed what a difference having "time out" will make along with recharging your batteries.

Please feel free to private message me as I will always be here to support you whether it be to compare or just vent.

Big hugs wrapped with love

Julie x