Struggling with Depression

Hi Chelsea,

Sounds like you are better without this person in your life.  I've been fighting to clear toxic people out of my life this year, but I've seen a similar situation you describe with a close friend of mine.

Her partner almost broke up with her due to someone acting in similar manner but going further with lies hinting towards more than just a friendship.

You need to cut this other person out of your life, they're using suicide threats as a way of controlling you, and it's dragging you down.

You also need to get them and their toxic influence out of your mind. Hopefully without the toxic effect they've had in your life in the way you should start to feel better.

Please feel free to message me if you want to talk further :)

Hi hun,

Its really hard actually, so hard. So i would say take time before making any big choices, wait till a good day and make choices then not on a bad day when you feel bad.

I am very heart broken at the mo, dumped by my first bf (my first ever one) 5 months that day, he said it at least to my face but it hurt said he didnt love me and didnt even want a relationship. It hurt bad, I missed him. I still do but not so much. My sleep and mental health started breaking down, i recovered. 

I did online dating again just to try and distract me from the pain. It worked abit but not really, i hurt so bad everything reminded me of him :/

Then by chance i chatted to a guy aged 34 so at first told him too old, but he asked can we chat as mates we did and well we ended up together for a month. Sadly he hurt me so badly, dumped by txt, same reason as my first, that hurts more. THen next day tried taking me back :/ Then a week ago messaged me (all his messages go to spam and everything else i blocked him on) He called me selfish and childish. He hurt me even more when i just said can you leave me alone, as i want to rebuild my life without you in it. He like was horrible said try rebuild after 13 years (he was taking about his wife, no i didnt know they were not broken up proper) 

It hurts so bad, i dont love him now but i miss him because he was so different and lovely and one day he will be an awesome bf to someone else but never me again.

So now i have no trust in anyone and i feel so so crap and it hurts so so much 

people like that are toxic i agree with raven,

cut that person out of your life,

as they are not really friends and have only one thing in mind...

and those suicide threats are a low blow...

best of luck...

best wishes...

D

Hi Chelsea.

I do hope that you are feeling a little brighter. I have just read your post. Do not take the person's suicide threats to heart. If he intended to do it then he would have.

He has sucked you in to his world. If you have been feeling low then you will believe it.

Don't own his own insecurities/ behaviour. Let him sort his own life out.

I can understand why your boyfriend would be so hurt. If you can't talk to him face to face with your inner most feelings then why not write him a letter. Putting it down on paper is sometimes so much more easier ? Explain to him that you felt that he could help you. 

Look after yourself, no one else.

i do hope that you can get your relationship back on track.

Love , light and happiness.

Julie .x