4 things not to do when you are in a bad mood

I always try to see the funny side of relapses like when I had lost the sight in my left eye I ate the same as everyone else with half the calories! I am currently unable to walk properly but that's OK cause I can work from home and be surrounded by our cats!!

I try to stay as positive as i can and on my low days i do something nice like read a good book, watch a good movie do some medatation. Be kind to myself it always helps.

One thing I've found not to do while feeling down or in a bad mood is tidy away your important paperwork and driving license to somewhere "safe" 3 weeks later I am still looking for my driving license. :-D

I know have a collapsible crate, that I put all my important items in so that they are tidied into a neat pile for me to sort out when I am in a better frame of mind. 

Another thing is not to call or email your ex, thinking that you are helping to get things moving in your divorce because it will only back fire and you'll be the bad one. 

Instead I go have a cup of tea and a glass of water. I listen to music either calming or if I need to expend energy I go for a mix that I can just dance around the house to. If I am still in a bad mood in the evening a nice relaxing bath with lavendar oil works for me. 

20voices, I love the idea of putting in some dance music and dancing round the house. I'm going to try that next time. Thank you.

For me when I am having a bad day I write things down and then read them back and tear them up like a sort of symbolic gesture , by tearing them up I am destroying the reason to feel down .I also write poetry about different things and sometimes post them online to a group I belong to called " My health My way "

Hazel , your comment regarding emailing your ex regarding your divorce made me giggle. I used to do that despite someone saying that he was still controlling me but i would get so mad that my fingers were itching to get on the laptop.

My anger regarding what he was putting myself/children through would eat in to me.

I am not too bad now but when he upsets our children I see red. He never replies but I know that he reads them.

I think that it is all part of the healing process. 

Have a fab Tuesday. x

itgetsbetter, 

It definitely is part of the healing process. :-D

I just don't know how he would have acted if we had kids. There should be nothing complicated with our divorce as we have no kids and he stated that it was going to be amicable at the start. It should have all been finalized 6 months ago but he's still hiding information. If anything I should be the one holding things up because I now know he was having an affair. I suspected he was towards the end, but now I definitely know. I am now have a good clear out of the house as he's said he's collected everything he wanted, so what's left is all going. Had my Mum panicking because I said I was going to have a bonfire in the back garden. She was worried about the houses around me. Told her I was only figuratively speaking and it was all getting recycled or sent to charity. :-D  

I can understand you seeing red when he upsets the kids because you have to deal with getting them settled again, not him. 

I am on to the next step of healing, which is I know just sigh and shake my head. He is sending me emails when I have my email system set to block his emails. I found out the other night when I checked me junk mail and found a couple of emails from him. :-D I have my email program set to send a blocked email response to any of his emails and they should have been getting deleted as well. They are now.

It is funny the things that we do, even when close friends advise us not to. :-D

Hope you have a great day to.  

Hazel, I did giggle at your comments regarding the disposal of his belongings. Friends/family would also advise me not to email him /phone him but my emotions would always get the better of me. I don't believe in letting things fester, especially as I was the innocent victim; not him as he was leading a double life including going to Mexico for his 50th birthday whilst having the nerve to tell us/his family that he was working abroad.

I found destroying everything of his so therapeutic ; although in the early days I felt guilty and wouldn't go through with it. 

I actually took his tools that he had left [as he was "sorting himself out and would be returning" and put them in my neighbours shed.

I actually laugh at my antics now. My friends/family used to despair at me at times but laugh at the same time.

It is all part and parcel of recovery.

Have a great day. xxx

Hi

I'm fairly new to this forum. If I feel "down" I try to be positive. Be kind to yourself is one of the things I think. I'm on crutches permanently and have arthritis in lots of places and now the knees seemed to have joined  the party I do have a car and up until this arthritis in my knees hit me I was driving and thinking I'm lucky, I can drive.

OK I cant walk very far but I can with my crutches. So now, no car, no bus pass etc I do get down.

I've sent off to renew my bus pass.. The first step. I also relax if I'm feeling "down" I have a few relaxation CD's that are very helpful

I have a "pamper day" as well.

Well that's my little bit to tonight

Eileen

Inexplicably I've been in a bad mood for most of today,recently prescribed some diazepam in addition to my usual medications so I might have one of those to take the edge off the irritability. Tried to distract myself at home but still not in a good mood.After my evening meal went for a walk and that has helped,walked off some tension.Put the TV on now but my mind is wandering elsewhere.