Has breast cancer affected your marriage or relationship? Experiences, support, advice.

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02/04/2014 at 16:59

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At first it was difficult for me and my husband. But he learned to listen to my concerns. Now, we are stronger than ever!

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Has breast cancer affected your marriage or relationship? Experiences, support, advice. https://www.carenity.co.uk/forum/other-discussions/living-with-breast-cancer/breast-cancer-and-married-life-30 2014-04-02 16:59:50

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26/08/2017 at 08:28

yes and still does. 30 years married this sept and felt so alone. He just didn't understand at all ?

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26/08/2017 at 13:12

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It does as they see you as being the stronger one. My husband spent part of first appointment (the day my chemo was explained to me) talking about his mother's battle 17 years ago. I totally flipped out at the appointment and told him to f**k off and a lot worse. I went on to say that this was my battle not his f**king mothers. For him he thought that by saying she survived and 17 years later is still ok I would get support from this. At the time I though he was being more concerned about his mother than me.

My consultatant still talks about that day with a big smile on her face.

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27/08/2017 at 03:01

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My marriage is suffering. The tamoxifen is making me moody hot flushes, I don't have any interest in sex. Everything my husband does annoys me. Will this pass?? I am 6 months post mastectomy and reconstruction.

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27/08/2017 at 16:28

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My husband as been my rock, let me scream at him and just sat and listened, i have no boobs at the moment as everything went wrong and my husband as been there for me through it all, i am waiting for lipofilling, as anyone else had this. i forgot say i been married 37 years and everyone said it wouldnt last, but me getting cancer brought us even closer..

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He has been ok since that day. It was the day I was told I was having chemo and what I would be treated with and how many rounds I was having. There was a jnr doctor in the room with us and they both carried on with a conversation about his mum. I couldn't concentrate on what was being said to me. He has been ok since that day, we both find it hard however, we do speak quite openly to each other and as to how we can support each other.

The drugs are a killer on top of dealing with everything else that is going on after the whole illness. Your moods are all over the shop and to be honest there seems to be no point in asking the medical staff as each person is different.

I suppose like everything else in this illness we will all find our own way to manage everything that is going to happen with the drugs and the side affects.

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30/08/2017 at 21:27

I feel so low all the time. My husband says lots of women have it and get over it. And I'm going over the top I feel alone so alone I'm trying so hard to pick my self up and not to talk about it as it seems to really irritate him

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02/09/2017 at 21:07

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Hi Jornayer sorry to hear how you are feeling. Is there any support group near you? Could your gp recommend someone that you could talk with?

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21/09/2017 at 15:38

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24/09/2017 at 16:57

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Being one of life's copers, I've been to all my appointments on my own. I'm not a child and don't need anyone to hold my hand! I'm sure that if my husband came along, I'd feel obliged to be understanding of and supportive for him. I'd probably be more inclined to be better behaved during appointments!

He is very supportive within the limits that I set, this after all is an illness that affects me and I'll fight it on my terms. I've always been rubbish at illness, I'm not terribly sympathetic and I don't want people being kind and sympathetic, just treat me like a normal person.

He does the best thing imaginable and makes sure that my coffee is always ready just how I like it when I get back from the hospital, he prepares meals when I'm feeling crap and he'll walk the dogs without being asked.

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