Angry in the inside .. help

Hi Deirdre. I was sorry to read of your struggle. Life can be so hard at times. I too was diagnosed with anxiety depression and it has been a dark, lonely ,frightening path to be on. My now ex decided after 30 years to have an affair; he was also diagnosed as being "delusional and psychotic" The mental abuse was horrendous. I supported him for 3 years whilst he was "getting help". His "help" was going to live with her whilst claiming to be away working. His 50th was spent in Mexico "working" when in reality he was away with her.

Now that I am in a good place mentally, I am so angry at myself for being so stupid when I should of walked away. I too was sad that my whole marriage meant so little as we were soulmates. I was sad for our children and angry that he was putting her before his children.

Whilst this was all going on my dad was diagnosed with COPD  and my sister with cancer. I too was facing redundancy from my part time job. I felt totally overwhelmed.

Try and channel you anger in to something positive; gardening, decorating, walking anything to take your mind off your anger.

Concentrate on your breathing in times of anxiety. When I had my first panic attack, I seriously thought that I was dying. I now know that I won't die  and it was a case of focusing on my breathing and slowing it right down. I  still practice my breathing and no longer suffer from P/A.

Focus on you; do things for you, no matter how small.

Talk, talk and talk some more. The more you talk the less emotional you will become. 

It is ok to say that you are angry /not coping.Try to be gentle on yourself, don't be over critical of yourself.

Always here to chat/support.

Julie. x

Anger is a perfectly legitimate human response so please try not to get angry at yourself for being angry. As previously suggested, using the energy created by the anger for something constructive/positive/enjoyable may help. This is what I generally do though sometimes I do not manage it.  Do you have a therapist or a friend you can express this anger to. Sometimes I find having someone to just listen is an enormous help.

Take care and know that we are here.