"It’s all in your head!": How do you deal with this frustrating comment?

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Hello everyone! 😊

Many people living with chronic illness have heard the frustrating remark: “It’s all in your head!” This kind of comment can be invalidating, minimizing the symptoms and struggles that come with both visible and invisible illnesses.

Pain and suffering from chronic conditions are very real and deserve to be acknowledged. By sharing our experiences and discussing these challenges, we can help break stereotypes and promote better understanding.

👉 How do you react when someone says this to you?

👉 How do you explain your condition and make others understand your struggles?

👉 What responses or arguments have helped you challenge this misconception?

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Let’s share our experiences (and some kind but firm comebacks!) to educate and support one another. 💬😊

Looking forward to your thoughts!

Somya from the Carenity team 🌼

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Flip5ter

26/02/2025 at 18:19

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It's not all in the head but the head can be a factor in the problem, whereby the physical problem causes stress, anxiety or even mental health issues, which in turn can have an adverse effect on the physical problem.

"It’s all in your head!": How do you deal with this frustrating comment? https://www.carenity.co.uk/forum/other-discussions/good-to-know/its-all-in-your-head-how-do-you-deal-with-this-frustrating-comment-5620 2025-02-26 18:19:00

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26/02/2025 at 18:40

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I a doctor tells me it all in my head, I know my body and its not. I will simply go to another Dr. because I am not comfortable with a Dr telling me nothing is wrong with me, with no testing or explanation. We have to be our own advocates!

ZoeLara

26/02/2025 at 23:42

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After years of ME/CFS I don't feel I have to explain my health anymore.

So I just say I don't wish to talk about it. It usually added to my frustration when I tried in times past

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01/03/2025 at 10:20

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@ZoeLara you shouldn't have to explain to anyone about the way you feel you know and that is what counts a lot of illnesses are not shown it's how you feel about yourself, not all illnesses are visible if you feel down then pick up the phone and talk to someone there is always someone that will listen or talk to us on here

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27/02/2025 at 13:20

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The head is an important part of the body. So to say it's all in your head is a ridiculous thing to say. We all just need to be me supporting of each other. Everyone is fighting their own battle.

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27/02/2025 at 23:14

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@Somya.P probably relating to the fact that you’re never alone in whatever you’re going through, so you can always find people to relate to

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