Why can't I stop

Hello @Traceyn1979

Firstly, I’m really sorry to hear about your dad. It sounds like you’ve been through a lot, and it’s completely understandable that you’re finding things really tough to deal with right now. Turning to alcohol could have felt like a way to cope with your loss and the pain of missing him. Please be kinder to yourself. Grief and all the stress can make us lean on habits we’re trying to break away from.

Wanting to stop is a big first step, and it’s okay to need and ask for help. Have you considered reaching out to a therapist or a support group? Also, small, manageable goals and perhaps a daily routine that includes activities you enjoy might help distract from the urge to drink.

Remember, you’re doing your best during a very tough time.

Let me invite some members to offer support:

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Hello everyone, any advice or words of kindness will be really appreciated.

Please take care,

Somya from the Carenity team

So sorry to hear about your Dad. Mine is terminally ill. I was diagnosed BP 1 finally at the age of forty. For twenty odd years I self-medicated through drink and drugs. I was a functional addict for most of that. But I ended up drinking a large bottle of spirits or more every day. It very, very nearly killed me. But once I started on the correct BP meds like Quetiapine I quit drinking almost overnight. 10 years sober now without any relapses. I realise a bottle of wine is not the same level but I hope you find a way to stop. I don’t know if it will help, but for me it was about changing the association’s with drinking. So you only think about drinking in a negative way and how it effects those around you Also try and develop a positive mental attitude. If you put the work in, it will get easier with time. Alcohol is truly insidious for those of us with psychological conditions. My heart goes out to you, stay strong and you can stop. I hope I’m not out of line or invading your privacy, but feel free to DM me as someone who truly understands what you’re dealing with.

@Traceyn1979 I'm so sorry to hear about your dad, Hun. My Dad lost his short but very bravely fought battle with terminal lung cancer over 5 years ago and I'm still finding it hard without him. I'm a Daddy's and Nana's girl. My nanna, who is my late dad's late mum passed away when I was still in primary school and I miss them both every day.

When my dad passed away, my mum told me that my nanna had come for my daddy and I just broke down.

It didn't hit my brother properly until the December of the same year that our dad wasn't coming back.

I'm the eldest of 4 children I'm 41, my middle sister is 40, our youngest sister is 35 and our brother is 32.

There's a week short of 18 months between me and my middle sister.